Sometimes we tell ourselves that it’s okay to be not okay in order for us to cope up with these things that we ourselves know we cannot change, that we ourselves cannot be able to fathom. And now, it has come to a point where we believe that yes, it’s okay not to be okay because really, it does.
I’ve heard this line a long time ago, it was from a social media platform wherein people posts their sentiments about life, about failures, about heartaches and just about anything. What has struck me the most is this line. I’ve always believed that everything should go my way and that what I want I shall always get but when I graduated college reality hit me hard.
Five years later I don’t know if I will be able to call myself successful because I flunked the board exams, I didn’t get to follow my dream job or whatever, I was not able to travel the world as what I have told my younger self – but this is reality and I have no choice but to accept the fact as it is.
As I grew older and I don’t know if I’ve grown wiser, I understood two important aspects of my life.
The first one is, you can’t always get what you want but there’s a way to get it. It takes determination, courage and hard work to get what you want or what you really need. You have to always keep yourself ready for anything because it may not go your way on the first try but there’s always a second, a third and so on. Now these three elements will not be as strong and powerful if not mixed with patience, humility and morals. That with determination, you must be patient in going through the process of achieving that goal. That with courage, you must always blend it with humility for courage without humility is arrogance crying for substance. And that with hard work you must always do it with your guiding principles and morals so as you go your way in fulfilling that dream you may not lose your way.
The second one is acceptance. Acceptance comes in all sorts, it can be good or otherwise but with acceptance you must be able to know that once you accept it whether it be a challenge or a decision, you must accept it with an open heart and an open mind. For the past years I’ve been struggling with what I really want to do in life. The process of not knowing what you will do goes on and on and believe me, it’s kind of a taunting experience. Everything’s going out of control inside your head. And as the end of the day approaches you have to make a decision, a very important decision, whether you will go to another day and face the challenge or just lie to yourself about everything.
Therefore, I firmly believe that it’s okay to be not okay.
Because that’s life, it’s a work-in-progress, you’ll have setbacks, you’ll fail.
But you can rise up again, bounce back harder and even shine the brightest.
Tim.
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